Instead, if you notice a pattern that doesn't sit well with you, talk to your partner about it first to see if you can get a bit more clarity. Remember: Even if one of the below red flags really bothers you, try to avoid jumping to conclusions. But I’m just an amateur online sleuth, so I contacted experts to help break down what common Facebook behaviors are actually hints that there are problems in your relationship. We've all posted the occasional vague update, but what you really want to keep an eye on (both online and IRL) are repeated behaviors that may indicate they aren't taking the relationship seriously, or that they're keeping one foot out the door. My motto is that if it's public, it's fair game. Of course, I can't resist the occasional deep-dive! Some people might think that's strange, but I'm not talking about hacking anyone’s account - just taking a closer look on their page and their activity. Listen, I'm a naturally nosey person! And there is so much you can learn about someone just by combing through their social media, including red flags on your partner’s Facebook that may signal your relationship is in for some trouble. I confess, I'm totally guilty of occasionally creeping on my partner’s social media.